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Avoid These 17 Wedding Planning Mistakes

Don’t freak out, but… There’s a ton of things that can go wrong dur­ing wed­ding plan­ning. It’s just a fact. To help com­bat this, though, we put togeth­er a list of 17 mis­takes that you could make when plan­ning your wed­ding. Keep in mind, though, there are things we might have missed and the most impor­tant thing is to be ready for any­thing.

1. Blowing Budget

Make your bud­get, make it smart, and stick to it. Deep in debt is no way to start a mar­riage. Dis­cuss your bud­get with every con­trib­u­tor, whether it’s just you, or you and your par­ents, or whomev­er. Con­sid­er how much every lit­tle thing is going to cost. Keep in mind that cater­ing is going to take a huge chunk of that and every­thing else has to fit in around that. Don’t for­get the details, either. If you have a set dress bud­get of $1500, for exam­ple, that doesn’t mean you can spend the entire $1500 on just the dress. You also have to con­sid­er a veil, shoes, under­clothes, etc. Things can real­ly start to add up if you don’t plan accord­ing­ly.

2. Getting Attached

Don’t try on the most expen­sive dress or look at the venue out of your bud­get first. You’ll wind up falling in love and either com­plete­ly blow­ing your bud­get (see above) or being dis­ap­point­ed when you have to go with some­thing dif­fer­ent. You also can’t get attached to any­thing else too ear­ly. Things go wrong and you have to be able to get past it with as lit­tle com­pli­ca­tions as pos­si­ble.

Bride and groom in blue suit and wedding party

3. Too Early

How could you pos­si­bly do any­thing too ear­ly, you ask. But believe us, it’s pos­si­ble. Espe­cial­ly when it comes to your wed­ding par­ty and save the dates. You want to make sure your very best friends are up there stand­ing beside you when you tie the knot. Set­ting this in stone too ear­ly could mean mak­ing a rash deci­sion or end­ing up with some­one you quick­ly fall away from. Save the dates should go out no more than six months in advance. The only excep­tion is for des­ti­na­tion wed­dings. Those should go out eight to 12 months in advance.

4. Too late

There’s a lot that can go wrong if you are doing things too late. It’s a good idea to stick to a cal­en­dar, like this one from The Knot. Don’t try to lose those extra 10 pounds too close to the wed­ding. Get­ting your dress or alter­ations too late can be detri­men­tal. Make sure you’re also reserv­ing every­thing, not just your ven­dors, well in advance. Need trans­porta­tion, like a limo? Take care of it ear­ly. Need hotel rooms for your­self and/or guests? Take care of it ear­ly. Bet­ter late than nev­er does not apply here. Rather, the ear­ly bird gets the worm.

5. Too many guests

The num­ber of guests you intend to host can have a major impact on the bud­get. Think cater­ing and venue size. Not only can this hurt your wal­let, but it can also affect your enjoy­ment of your event. You want to make sure that every­one who shows ups is some­one that is going to pos­i­tive­ly impact the event.

6. Hiring friend

Hir­ing a friend might be for you, if your main goal is sav­ing mon­ey. How­ev­er, using a pro­fes­sion­al for the major things (like pho­tog­ra­ph­er or DJ) is usu­al­ly the bet­ter way to go. They are pro­fes­sion­al for a rea­son. They have done this before and will act pro­fes­sion­al­ly in any sit­u­a­tion.

wedding ceremony by a pond

7. Tension

Things are going to be stress­ful. That’s just a giv­en. But one of the worst things you can do is let that stress come between you and your finance or you and your plan­ning team.

8. Changing your mind

Chang­ing your mind is only accept­able before deposits have been paid and before any­thing has been ordered. There may be ways around it, if what­ev­er your first pick was is detri­men­tal, but the goal is to not let this hap­pen. Espe­cial­ly the clos­er the wed­ding gets. Chang­ing your mind doesn’t work one month before your wed­ding.

9. Doing it by yourself

You will absolute­ly dri­ve your­self crazy if you try to do every­thing by your­self. If you don’t want to go the wed­ding plan­ner route for what­ev­er rea­son, please at least enlist the help of some close friends and fam­i­ly mem­bers. And make sure your fiance has their share of respon­si­bil­i­ties.

10. Mess Up the Marriage License

The wed­ding is impor­tant, sure, but it’s also mean­ing­less if you can’t actu­al­ly get legal­ly mar­ried. Check with your local laws to make sure you get your license at the right time. And just as impor­tant, you need to make sure your license makes it to your cer­e­mo­ny.

bride and groom in midnight tuxedo holding hands

11. Change your routines last minute

Try­ing to change your diet, exer­cise rou­tine or beauty/skincare rou­tine last minute is a big no-no and you could end up with more adverse effects than pos­i­tive ones. Eat­ing bet­ter, exer­cis­ing more and hav­ing a great skin­care rou­tine can real­ly help you look great and feel bet­ter on your wed­ding day, but you should start months in advance to give your body time to adjust and give you time to fig­ure out what works best for you. These are all things that work well as a habit, not as a sin­gle month of hard­core changes.

12. Skip the videographer

While it’s ulti­mate­ly up to you whether or not you want a video­g­ra­ph­er, we can’t rec­om­mend them enough. We always hear one of two things: cou­ples who absolute­ly love their video­g­ra­ph­er and cou­ples who wished they’d got­ten one. If you need more con­vinc­ing, here’s a post why video­g­ra­phers are amaz­ing.

13. Micromanage

Yes, we know, it’s your day and you get to make all the deci­sions. While that may be true, that doesn’t mean you should try to take over every detail. Accept help and opin­ions from peo­ple you trust. And when it comes to your ven­dors, they almost always know what’s best. Your pho­tog­ra­ph­er, venue and who­ev­er else have been doing this for years. Believe us when we say they know how to make your day go off with­out a hitch and with­out too much direc­tion.

14. Send thank-you notes late or not at all

You’d be sur­prised how many peo­ple notice when they don’t get a thank-you note. It’s not only good eti­quette, but it gives you a chance to per­son­al­ly thank your friends and fam­i­ly for going out of their way to spend the day with you and spend a lit­tle bit of mon­ey on a nice gift. That deserves some recog­ni­tion and you would want the same cour­tesy. 

15. Forget to eat the day of

And along with that, for­get to feed your bridal par­ty. It’s a super busy day. You are run­ning around get­ting ready and mak­ing sure every­thing is good to go. It’s easy, espe­cial­ly when nerves kick in, to for­get to grab a snack at var­i­ous points in the day. Pre­pare ahead of time to ensure food and water is on hand for you and your par­ty. You def­i­nite­ly don’t want to be pass­ing out from dehy­dra­tion and low blood sug­ar dur­ing your cer­e­mo­ny.

bride and groom in blue suit with bridal party in the rain

16. Not having a backup plan

Make sure all your ven­dors have a plan in the event some­thing goes wrong. If your pho­tog­ra­ph­er comes down with pneu­mo­nia, who’s tak­ing their place? If the DJ’s speak­ers break, where is he get­ting new ones? And if weath­er impedes your cer­e­mo­ny, what is your rain plan? Know­ing these things ahead of time allows you to han­dle any prob­lem thrown at you with grace and only mild frus­tra­tion.

17. Not being comfortable with your photographer

It is so impor­tant that you feel com­fort­able with your pho­tog­ra­ph­er for your wed­ding. You want to look hap­py and com­plete­ly nat­ur­al in the pic­tures and a big part of that is being com­fort­able in front of the cam­era. To help with this, we sug­gest two things: being on the same page with your pho­tog­ra­ph­er before you book them and doing an engage­ment ses­sion with the same pho­tog­ra­ph­er. Meet­ing with mul­ti­ple pho­tog­ra­phers before you book gives you a chance to see dif­fer­ent styles and per­son­al­i­ties before choos­ing your favorite. You’d be sur­prised how impor­tant that is. Many wed­ding pho­tog­ra­phers include an engage­ment ses­sion in their pack­age and you should 100 per­cent take them up on that. For one, you’ll get gor­geous pic­tures. And sec­ond­ly, you get the oppor­tu­ni­ty to warm up to the pho­tog­ra­ph­er and their cam­era before your big day.

There is so much room for error when it comes to plan­ning a wed­ding. We def­i­nite­ly sug­gest mak­ing lists and fol­low­ing a detailed cal­en­dar to make sure you cov­er all your bases. But what­ev­er hap­pens the day of your wed­ding, just remem­ber that the most impor­tant part is that you’re mar­ry­ing the love of your life and you have a life­time of hap­pi­ness ahead of you.

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