Three Biggest Mistakes We See Grooms Make

The more details that go into a wedding, the more things that can go wrong. The flowers could be delivered late, the bride’s name could be misspelled in the program, the cake could arrive with a missing tier. You just never know.

But it’s one thing for accidents to happen at the fault of a third party. It’s a whole other ordeal when the groom messes up. The groom is the one person the bride can yell at without feeling guilty afterward.

So to avoid that senseless screaming, here are the three biggest mistakes grooms make and how to avoid them.

1. Waiting until the last minute

Planning for this wedding has been going on for months. Your bride and her planning cohort have worked tirelessly to ensure that everything goes off without a hitch. The worst possible thing you could do is drop the ball on any of the few tasks she entrusted to you.

The day before and the day of the wedding have been carefully scheduled there is absolutely no room for error. Especially with the suit. Between the rehearsal and the dinner and grandma telling you about her doctor visits, there will not be time to worry about something that should have been taken care of already.

We have seen it all. Wrong sizes, wrong colors, even no garments at all. Or you might go to pick up the suit the morning of the wedding and find the shop closed. Think you’ve seen your fiance mad before? Think you’ve gotten “the look” before? You haven’t. Nothing will compare to this wrath. This look will be pulled straight from the pits of hell.

Don’t be that guy. Order your suit or tux six months in advance and get it in your hands 14 days before your wedding.

2. Not getting involved

Your bride may imply that your opinion doesn’t matter or that you have no business making decisions for her wedding—I mean, your wedding. But trust us, refusing to get involved or at least pretending to care what colors the bridesmaids dresses are or which font to use on the place cards is worse.

There are plenty of decisions that couples can—and should—make together when it comes to their wedding. Here are three great topics to you can add your opinion to: Style, Honeymoon, and Suits.

The style of your wedding isn’t just up to her. It needs to match you two as a couple. And you are a great vacationer, offer her ideas that will blow her away. And suits? It’s you that has to wear it all day. Sure, she knows what look she wants to see in her pictures, but after covering the basics, that’s something you can totally take care of on your own. You are a strong, independent groom who don’t need no hand-holding.

Get involved and be there for your bride. Bring her a glass of wine when she’s ready to pull her hair out. Tell her you can’t wait to marry her. Be the guy she’s dreamed of marrying since watching Cinderella as a kid.

3. Cake in the bride’s face

Now, we’re not saying you can’t push cake into your bride’s face, we’re just saying you should consider the consequences before making this bold move.

Yes, sure, we’re kidding just a little bit, but this advice applies to all decisions you make throughout the planning process and day-of the event. Consider the consequences carefully.

Anything that will ruin her makeup is generally off limits. Picking pointless arguments? She cries, makeup runs. Off limits. Too many lap dances from scantily-clad women at your bachelor party? She finds out, she cries, makeup runs. Off limits. Cake in the face? Icing is washed off along with the makeup she probably paid quite a bit to have done. Off limits. This list goes on and on.

A few smart decisions on your part and your wedding will go swimmingly, if no one else messes up, of course. But even if they do, it won’t be your fault and instead you can be the hero. Don’t be the guy that stands idly by while the world around your bride falls apart. Looking great and taking care of business is what you’re here for, and it only takes a little bit of effort.

There are so many small details that go into creating your dream wedding, but that doesn’t mean you should have to stress. Generation Tux lets you sample your clothing before the big day, in the comfort of your living room. See what we have to offer to make your union extraordinary.