Top 5 Tips for Supportive Grooms

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Con­grat­u­la­tions, you’ve made it this far. You might be ask­ing your­self, what do I do now? Being a groom is com­plex and we’re here to walk you through it. This is going to be a tough time for your bride. She’ll be run­ning around, mak­ing phone calls and big deci­sions, pulling out her hair and very pos­si­bly ignor­ing you and your rela­tion­ship. Nev­er fear. This is nor­mal.

Here are our top tips to being the best, most sup­port­ive groom you can be dur­ing this try­ing time.

Be present

Help plan the wed­ding! Grooms are more involved in wed­ding plan­ning now than they’ve ever been. Con­tribute ideas, attend venue appoint­ments and don’t pro­cras­ti­nate. Help­ing out with plan­ning is a great way to show your bride you love her. Plus, it gives you a chance to help per­son­al­ize your big day—because, yes, it’s your day too!

IDEA: Get a head start on the hon­ey­moon plan­ning and sched­ule an appoint­ment with a trav­el agent.

bride and groom holding hands

Give constructive feedback

Don’t just say “no” or “uh-huh.” Give real feed­back. If you don’t like some­thing, tell your part­ner why you don’t like it. Do the same if you real­ly love some­thing and want to make sure it’s part of the big day. Again, this is your day, too, and you want to make sure it’s spe­cial to both of you. Your bride is sure to under­stand if you real­ly care about some­thing.

IDEA: Cre­ate a list of songs that are mean­ing­ful to the two of you. Give them to the DJ or band before the wed­ding so they can be incor­po­rat­ed into the playlist. And don’t for­get to make a list of “DO NOT PLAYS” for them as well!

Take initiative

Don’t wait to be asked to do some­thing. Take the ini­tia­tive on things that you know are your strong suit. It will show inter­est and let her know that you’re will­ing to help! Make the calls telling a ven­dor you’re not using them if she’s scared to. Book the hotel block, because how hard can that real­ly be, right? Run inter­fer­ence on the bud­get because you know if you don’t do it, no one will.

IDEA: Ral­ly your grooms­men and start plan­ning your wed­ding day look. This is some­thing you can and should get a head start on. Trust us, she’ll be thrilled to cross that one off her to-do list.

Be understanding

No doubt wed­ding plan­ning can be stress­ful. When your part­ner needs to vent, let them. Be empa­thet­ic. Don’t act like it’s not a big deal. A hug will go a lot fur­ther than an eye roll. Sure, you’re tired of all the stress that is mak­ing her stressed, which is mak­ing your stressed. We get it. But it’ll all be over soon, you just have to make it through the next few months with­out any life-ruin­ing argu­ments.

IDEA: Treat her to a spa day one month out from the wed­ding. By this point, she’ll need a day to her­self! Bonus points if you go too and get a men’s facial in prepa­ra­tion for the wed­ding. Real men take care of their skin.

bride and groom in blue suit

Communicate

Involve your fam­i­lies and help bridge the needs and desires of your part­ner, their fam­i­ly and your fam­i­ly. It’s your job to play ref­er­ee with your fam­i­ly, not hers. Make sure both your par­ents and your part­ner feel heard and that con­flicts dur­ing wed­ding plan­ning are dealt with mature­ly and prompt­ly.

IDEA: Invite your par­ents and your future in-laws over for din­ner ear­ly in the plan­ning to dis­cuss plans and ideas for the wed­ding. Deter­mine who they would like to include on the guest list and any fam­i­ly tra­di­tions that might be includ­ed in the cer­e­mo­ny or recep­tion. It’s bet­ter to take care of these ear­ly than to run into road­blocks of con­flict lat­er.

Enjoy the plan­ning while it lasts and enjoy help­ing your future-spouse because your wed­ding day will fly bye. In the end remem­ber, it’s about the two of you and your future. Have fun and don’t for­get cham­pagne makes every­thing bet­ter. Cheers!

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