How To Plan A Bachelor Party

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The pur­pose of a bach­e­lor par­ty is to cel­e­brate the tran­si­tion from being sin­gle to being mar­ried. It’s a time to plan some­thing epic that you and your friends enjoy, but won’t be doing as much until your poten­tial future off­spring have grad­u­at­ed col­lege.

For many bach­e­lors, this can mean an evening of mas­sive alco­hol con­sump­tion and strip­pers. While drunk­en debauch­ery is a fine and noble tra­di­tion, it is trite and you deserve bet­ter. This is your par­ty; own it. Use all the lever­age your life-chang­ing cou­pling will pro­vide to inspire and, if nec­es­sary, shame your friends to step away from the tried and true and make this an event that you will all talk about for decades to come.

ASSIGNING THE PLANNER

If you have the right friends, they may be more eager to plan a bach­e­lor par­ty than you are about attend­ing. It’s not just an excuse for your friends to ensure you have a good time; it gives them a license to par­ty as well. But while sev­er­al of your friends may have input, you need to appoint one per­son to call the shots.

\The per­son you tra­di­tion­al­ly tap is the best man, but if you select­ed him more out of oblig­a­tion than shared appetites, it’s com­plete­ly accept­able to pick a grooms­man or even a friend who isn’t part of the wed­ding par­ty to over­see the event.

When select­ing the plan­ner, keep in mind that every­one has their own agen­da. Some of your friends pri­mar­i­ly want to embar­rass you; oth­ers to use your par­ty as an excuse to do some­thing they couldn’t nor­mal­ly get away with. This is why you need to tell the plan­ner any of the fol­low­ing, if true:

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  1. This is your bach­e­lor par­ty and he needs to orga­nize some­thing you will enjoy. You may not need to men­tion this if your idea of a good time is being drunk and hand­cuffed to a strip­per pole in your tighty-whities.
  2. Your fiancé has let you know that she will base her bach­e­lorette par­ty on what yours involves, and you are uncom­fort­able with the idea of anoth­er man grind­ing his near-naked pelvis into her drunk­en face.
  3. No one in the par­ty should act in any way that might cause them­selves or oth­ers to be arrest­ed, sued or shot.
  4. You could be asked for a ran­dom urine test at work.
  5. You are con­tem­plat­ing a career in pub­lic ser­vice.
  6. No cam­eras, unless your idea of a good Insta­gram or Face­book pho­to is one of you drunk and hand­cuffed to a strip­per pole in your tighty-whities.

TIMING

All oth­er things being equal, it’s best to have your bach­e­lor par­ty a min­i­mum of a week before the wed­ding and, if pos­si­ble, months before. This gives you plen­ty of time to enjoy the event, repair any rela­tion­ship dam­age, and deal with any legal, med­ical, or oth­er bills. How­ev­er, if the guys attend­ing both your bach­e­lor par­ty and wed­ding need to trav­el long dis­tances to be there, the bach­e­lor par­ty will like­ly take place short­ly before the wed­ding, mean­ing your par­ty should prob­a­bly be briefer and tamer than oth­er­wise. Have your plan­ner plug in some dates using Google Cal­en­dar or doo­dle, and find a time that works for every­one.

groom in blue suit and groomsmen in black suits sitting around a fire

EXAMPLES

The tra­di­tion­al “stag night” of booze and strip­pers has sev­er­al ele­ments of a good bach­e­lor par­ty: it’s out of most guys’ com­fort zone, there’s the option to humil­i­ate you and since you can blame the idea on your friends and they can blame it on you, your fiancé and your bud­dies’ wives and girl­friends gen­er­al­ly tol­er­ate the evening. Espe­cial­ly if the strip­pers are in a club and not your liv­ing room.But before you default to this obvi­ous option, con­sid­er some alter­na­tives. First off, why just one night? Don’t you deserve at least a long week­end? With every­body chip­ping in, you can make this a big­ger event than you may real­ize. Here are some alter­na­tives to the liquor and strip­per route:

Road trips: Rent an RV and head out on the great Amer­i­can high­way: des­ti­na­tion option­al. But if arriv­ing some­where is impor­tant, check out Road­side Amer­i­ca for ideas.

Craft Brew­ery or Wine Coun­try tour: This can be done as a day trip as a tour group or just break out a map and plot a mul­ti-day odyssey.

Rent a house: Scan the list­ings on VBRO or Airbnb for a rock­ing place with plen­ty of space, a big kitchen, and views. Being on the water is always a good option, whether the ocean, a riv­er, or a lake. If you live in a city, you might want a place in the sticks where you can see the stars at night. Con­verse­ly, if you live in the burbs, you might pre­fer an urban set­ting where you can walk to bars and restau­rants.

House­boat trip: Motor one of these self-con­tained, mul­ti-bed­room, float­ing par­ty machines around a lake or delta, stake down at an emp­ty beach and you’re good for the dura­tion.

Golf des­ti­na­tion: Eigh­teen (or nine­teen) holes dur­ing the day, fol­lowed by a feast at night.

Raft­ing trip: These run the gamut from a leisure float down the riv­er to mul­ti-day, guid­ed rip­per of class five white water.

Ski trip: Trav­el some­where you haven’t yet been. Shred the slopes dur­ing the day and kick back in the lodge at night.

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Mex­i­co: Depend­ing on the time of year you go, you can score some great deals at all-inclu­sive resorts. Check out Cost­co Vaca­tions for a few options.

Las Vegas, New Orleans or some oth­er city not­ed for encour­ag­ing aber­rant behav­ior: Pick a place where it’s con­sid­ered nor­mal to walk down the street with a drink in your hand before noon.

Col­orado: If you like get­ting high, it’s 420 all the time. There’s an entire tourism indus­try being built around cannabis.

Cos­play Con­ven­tion, Coun­ty Fair, Hor­ror Film Fes­ti­val, Wild Food Fes­ti­val or Fourth of July Parade: You tru­ly are lim­it­ed only by your col­lec­tive imag­i­na­tion, plus what your fiancé and bank account will tol­er­ate. Own it!

No mat­ter what you go with for your night of fun, just keep one thing in mind: This is for you! This is your excuse to go crazy and have fun. Just maybe not too much fun. If you sur­vive the night, you still have your bride to face the next morn­ing.

There are so many small details that go into cre­at­ing a wed­ding, but that doesn’t mean you should have to stress. Gen­er­a­tion Tux lets you sam­ple your cloth­ing before the big day, in the com­fort of your liv­ing room. See what we have to offer to make your union extra­or­di­nary. 

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