Ultimate Guide to Being a Great Groomsmen

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So, your best bud is get­ting mar­ried. Quite the leap from doing keg stands in col­lege, amirite? But now it’s time to get seri­ous. This is an impor­tant time in this man’s life and you’ve been asked to be a part of it. Ter­ri­ble deci­sion, real­ly. You can’t mess this one up.

We’ve pooled our best tips to help you be the best grooms­man ever. But we can only do so much. The rest is up to you.

What the Groomsmen Traditionally Pay For

  • Bach­e­lor Par­ty
  • Wed­ding attire
  • Gift for cou­ple
Groom and groomsmen in black tuxedos

Before the Wedding

Aid the groom

The job of the grooms­men is to be there for the groom dur­ing the wed­ding plan­ning sea­son. Attend all the pre-wed­ding events with a smile and agree with the groom when­ev­er he starts com­plain­ing. It’s going to get a bit hec­tic in his house, so there will be times when he needs to vent or needs to get out of the house or needs help putting togeth­er flo­ral arrange­ments. You just nev­er know what might hap­pen and you need to be pre­pared to assist with any­thing he might need.

Take care of the suit

You’re going to wear what­ev­er the bride and groom tell you with a smile, but that doesn’t it can look slop­py. It’s up to you to make sure your suit or tux gets fit­ted prop­er­ly and any mishaps get tak­en care of eas­i­ly. The bride doesn’t want to hear that you messed up the day of her wed­ding by not pick­ing up your tux on time or your jack­et is two sizes too big. And you’ll have to get it back in time, too.

The Bachelor Party

While it’s usu­al­ly up to the best man to plan a bach­e­lor par­ty, it’s the rest of the grooms­men that are going to be his sound­ing board. Share your ideas and help plan this epic night. If you’re the one tak­ing the reins, see out guide to being a best man for more details.

Keep in mind that you’re prob­a­bly going to help with pay­ing for all this, so try to stay with­in your own bud­get when mak­ing sug­ges­tions. 

Groom and groomsmen in blue suits toasting

The Wedding

Groom duty

All the grooms­men are going to be on groom duty the day of the wed­ding. Keep him calm and sober, but also hav­ing a good time. This is a big day for him and you’re an impor­tant part of that.

Be a gen­tle­man

Sure the groom has to stay sober, since he has a lot of fam­i­ly around, but that doesn’t mean you have to, right? Wrong. A quick toast before the cer­e­mo­ny to calm the groom’s nerves is one thing, but no one needs to be sway­ing up there. And dur­ing the recep­tion, we know how hard it is to promise not to have a few drinks. A few is cool, expect­ed even. But behav­ing your­self, and mak­ing sure the oth­er grooms­men behave them­selves, is impor­tant. Be friend­ly to all the peo­ple who came in to see the bride and groom, even if you don’t know them. Be espe­cial­ly nice to all the brides­maids and the moth­ers of the bride and groom. Ask them to dance, ask them about life. All the nor­mal, gen­tle­man­ly things. After grand­ma leaves and the lights go down, that’s your cue to par­ty like there’s no tomor­row.

Bride with groom and groomsmen in blue suits

Other Resources

A lot rides on the grooms­men pulling off a great look and great behav­ior. So do your­self and your bud­dy (and his fiancé) a favor and check out some of these oth­er posts. And if you don’t see what you’re look­ing for, we have plen­ty of oth­er guides and pots on our blog.

Fea­tured image by Tay­lor McCutchan Pho­tog­ra­phy

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