Your wedding day is one of the most important in your life, but it’s infinitely more important to your bride. Doubt this? Answer the following questions:
There are literally hundreds of decisions that need to be made when planning a wedding and, yes, a few dozen that pop up on the wedding day. Knowing when to take charge, when to negotiate and when to retire to another room is a critical skill that all grooms need to master. Immediately. The following is a list of decision areas, grouped by who is responsible for making them.
Every other decision can be made together. This includes your venues for the rehearsal dinner, ceremony and reception; menu; ceremony details; music; etc.
Our advice is to speak up when it’s your decision, share your opinion when it’s a joint decision and shut up when it’s her decision. But whatever the decision area, if your bride takes an opposing view after you’ve given your input, be gentlemanly enough to let her have the last word, unless it’s a deal-breaker. Remember, two days after the wedding you won’t remember how much people liked the groomsmen’s boutonnieres. But your bride will likely remember—and reminisce about—every detail of the day. After all, she has probably been looking forward to this day for far longer than you have.