Being asked to be the Best Man in a friend’s wedding is probably one of the greatest honors a guy can be given. And you’re probably left wondering why you? Because this guy has seen you fail over and over again. He has seen every worst side of you and he still wants you standing next to him on one of the most important days of his life. Whoa. So the big question now is how do you go about not screwing it up?
We’ve pooled our best tips to help you be the best Best Man ever. But we can only do so much. The rest is up to you.
Aid the groom
The job of the best man is to be there for the groom during the wedding planning season. It’s going to get a bit hectic in his house, so there will be times when he needs to vent or needs to get out of the house or needs help putting together floral arrangements. You just never know what might happen and you need to be prepared to assist with anything he might need. Keep him sane and help make sure this wedding goes off without a hitch. Keep in mind, too, that this is not the time to complain to him about his bride. He can nag, but you can’t. Just listen and nod along.
Attend suit fitting
If necessary. If he’s going with online rentals, this won’t be required, but if not, it’s your job to be present when the bride’s not there and to help make decisions. Not to mention, you’ll need to be on top of your own suit, as well. Getting fitted, handling any mishaps gracefully and getting it returned on time.
The Best Man is essentially the top dog groomsman. The groom is going to rely on you to relay information to the rest of the party and keep everything in order. It’s your job to keep everyone in check, to make sure the other groomsmen don’t go too crazy before or during the wedding.
It’s up to the Best Man, along with the other groomsmen to plan the bachelor party. It’s best to be as organized and accommodating as possible when it comes to planning this rite of passage. Here’s our short list of tips for planning a bachelor party:
Drive groom to the venue
If necessary. You might be staying at or close to the venue and not need transportation. Or the groom might have arranged for a car service. Don’t forget to be on time.
Help the groom get dressed
More than likely, you’ll all be getting ready together, but you’re there to make sure his tie is tied correctly and the right buttons are buttoned before the ceremony or pictures.
The groom will usually be in charge of getting the wedding bands to the ceremony, but he will pass them off to you before. That’s your most important job of the day. Making sure those don’t run off and are ready for the exchange during the ceremony.
Keep the groom sober
Yes, yes, I know, you want to take round after round of shots before and after the ceremony, but that’s not what’s best for him or the wedding. We’ve made it this far, let’s not disappoint the bride now. Give the groom a drink before the ceremony to calm the nerves, but no more. And during the reception, no one should be drinking heavily until grandma has gone home and the real party begins.
Tips for vendors
The groom might take care of this himself, but if he passes it off to you, it’ll be your job to get the payments for the vendors to them before the end of the night. They are best kept in marked envelopes somewhere out of the way, but easy to access.
Keep everyone in check
Including yourself. Not only do you need to help make sure the groom isn’t drinking too much, but you should also keep an eye on the other groomsmen. While all the family is still at the reception, you and the boys need to be on your best behavior. Smile and hold the door for everyone you see, strike up a conversation with the bride’s crazy aunt, slow dance with a couple bridesmaids. Be the gentleman we all know you can be. All bets are off after 10 pm.
Also known as The Speech. Sure the bride’s father and maid of honor and whoever else will be giving speeches and toasts, but is anyone really listening? No. They’re waiting for you. Here is our short list of tips for writing a killer best man speech:
As the best man, it’s your duty to the groom to make sure everything goes off without a hitch, while also partying all night long. To help you be the best best man ever, here are some additional blog posts. And if you don’t see what you’re looking for, we have plenty of other guides and pots on our blog.
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